Control is an illusion. If you think you can control everything all the time – you can not.
There is always a bigger system at play. It's better to learn to go with the flow, to change and be fluid. Yes, always stay focused but do not just think that there is only one outlet. You can think "I would like this to happen," but it might come in a different way. My tip for the day is to learn to go with the flow.
How do you know that you already go with the flow, even though you can be the largest control freak in the world? When I got to think about this deeper, I came to the realization that we all already DO go with the flow and we do not even realize it. Everyday of our lives. Just by existing here on earth we are part of a bigger system. Here is an example:
If you are driving in your car, you think you are in complete control. You have the gas and the break and the steering wheel, you can do whatever you want. But what is the bigger system? The flow of traffic is. You are already going with the flow. You are just screaming bloody murder while going through it. It's not going to help you at all. So just go with the flow. Sit and relax and realize "OK, there is traffic coming, I have to stop." People will cut you off all they want, you are only making yourself crazy.
Folks, we already go with the flow. Everyone preaches to go with the flow. But, do we realize that we are all already doing so? You just have to recognize it in every part of your life.
We make such a big deal about we need to with the flow. Have you ever asked yourself where do you already go with the flow? It is so easy to take apart and notice the negative then notice the positive. When I teach my students about mindfulness and body awareness, I tell them they have to notice what already happening with in themselves, not just what the want, which is normal to be out of pain. Realize you are already going with the flow and you just need to enjoy the experience.
So I leave you with this.
If you do not like something in your life, change it.
If the road is blocked, you do not have to settle for it. Take a detour, but do not try to control it because you will drive yourself crazy.